Who is an ideal woman?

 I have seen women voicing out loud with long speeches, their ideal views on defending an “Ideal Women” who they believe to be, however, they go around pointing fingers at other females.

One simple example or say “ghar ghar ko kahani” in Nepali term will be when a son gets married the daughter-in-law is often seen and heard about the disputes between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law or say between the bhauju and nanda (Daugher-in-law and the daughter of that house) in general. This is a normal example as this kind of thing is seen in numbers of Hindi and Nepali soap operas making it a normal norm in real life as well.

But the irony is how some “Feminists” are the ones talking how it is obvious that women can’t be friends with each other. So, here I am raising a question to those who have a picture of an ideal woman, “Who really is an Ideal woman and why can’t the two ladies be friends?”.

Is life really a melodrama with beans to spill? There are stories of women who treat their daughter-in-laws with so much love, respect and care but yet the society still raises a question. There are so many women entrepreneurs who have involved single mothers or say women having family issues in their business and have inspired them in being independent.

We believe in what we see or what people make us see but is it really the reality? It is important to think beyond gender bias and stereotypes before taking a step.

This article is by Tejaswi Pahari who works as a communication and branding officer at a health based NGO in lalitpur